05-10-2003, 12:46 PM
GRITS just brought up a thought... I think love may be associated with the sympathetic nervous system shooting off. For the non-psych people... that's the "fight or flight" thing your body does. Rapid heartbeat, pupil dilates, etc. If another person triggers that kind of feeling, just by being with them, it's possibly the sensation of love. Or you're just really nervous.
I also think love is different for each sex. What love at first site may be for a woman, for a guy it could just be he thinks the girl is hot and he gets a little bit "loving." That's another mark of love, when physical attractiveness is no longer a factor (that is, most people are attracted to eachother by looks at first, but that goes away eventually).
And I completely disagree with love being a choice. Sometimes it is, sure, you want to really be with someone and you are in love with the IDEA of being in love. But I think if you really love someone, it can just sort of happen. It's unavoidable, if you're with the greatest girl you've ever met, you cannot simply stop yourself from having the feeling of love.
Evan... you're in high school bro. I know plenty of people who make a big deal about this stuff in high school, and it's unnecessary. The people who break up and never stay friends... well, that's not weird... maybe they did hold feelings of love, maybe they didn't... but not being friends doesn't mean they didn't feel for each other, it just means it didn't work out. And afterwards, it feels really weird to hang out with them, sometimes the feelings come back, so you have to avoid eachother. None of it really matters in the long run, people will find someone else in or after college... there is still a lot of time left in life, and whatever happens in the teenage years can be left behind. So I can't stand it when these people in high school start acting as if their life is over... shit happens.
I also think love is different for each sex. What love at first site may be for a woman, for a guy it could just be he thinks the girl is hot and he gets a little bit "loving." That's another mark of love, when physical attractiveness is no longer a factor (that is, most people are attracted to eachother by looks at first, but that goes away eventually).
And I completely disagree with love being a choice. Sometimes it is, sure, you want to really be with someone and you are in love with the IDEA of being in love. But I think if you really love someone, it can just sort of happen. It's unavoidable, if you're with the greatest girl you've ever met, you cannot simply stop yourself from having the feeling of love.
Evan... you're in high school bro. I know plenty of people who make a big deal about this stuff in high school, and it's unnecessary. The people who break up and never stay friends... well, that's not weird... maybe they did hold feelings of love, maybe they didn't... but not being friends doesn't mean they didn't feel for each other, it just means it didn't work out. And afterwards, it feels really weird to hang out with them, sometimes the feelings come back, so you have to avoid eachother. None of it really matters in the long run, people will find someone else in or after college... there is still a lot of time left in life, and whatever happens in the teenage years can be left behind. So I can't stand it when these people in high school start acting as if their life is over... shit happens.