08-04-2003, 04:18 AM
women you are attracted to don't make good friends and that should be obvious by now...because emotional wires get crossed. women, btw, love to be 'just friends' w/ guys who are attracted to them...it's like they get everything they want (the confidence and a more positive self-image) and they don't have to give 'it' up...meanwhile the 'nice guy' goes back to his place alone, balls as blue as a smurf...:smurf:.
i tried to be friends w/ a girl i dated and was still attracted to...man, the worst thing ever...complete agony, not knowing if i was angry at her, sad for myself or both. it was really awkward when she brought up her sex-life but what can i say? she either got off on seeing me knocked down a peg or two or maybe she was really just that tacky...i dunno.
i finally told her, "look, i don't want you as a friend...i have plenty already...i either want more or less from you. that's it...non-negotiable" she got upset and left in a huff. i felt great...yeah, i ended up getting the less and not the more in this situation, but that's a helluva lot better than feeling like a dog and acting like a eunuch.
i tried to be friends w/ a girl i dated and was still attracted to...man, the worst thing ever...complete agony, not knowing if i was angry at her, sad for myself or both. it was really awkward when she brought up her sex-life but what can i say? she either got off on seeing me knocked down a peg or two or maybe she was really just that tacky...i dunno.
i finally told her, "look, i don't want you as a friend...i have plenty already...i either want more or less from you. that's it...non-negotiable" she got upset and left in a huff. i felt great...yeah, i ended up getting the less and not the more in this situation, but that's a helluva lot better than feeling like a dog and acting like a eunuch.