05-24-2003, 01:06 AM
No prob soul.
Now... as for divorced women being "damaged goods." I don't really see it that way... then again, I'm pretty young and I won't be coming across datable women that have been married before... for quite a while anyway. I think it's just the word... divorced. Some guys might get scared off by that. Or they are just intimidated that you would have a lot of experience. Or perhaps they are afraid that after one marriage, the next one will come quick... who knows?
It is sort of unfair... there are reasons and sometimes it is just out of our control, sometimes it is the best thing. And yet the perception will be the same for everyone. For me, unless there is something really significant, I'd ignore a girl's past relationships. Even if, some day, I go out with a previously married woman, I would just not worry about it unless it has happened many times. I judge people on the present... not the past.
Now... as for divorced women being "damaged goods." I don't really see it that way... then again, I'm pretty young and I won't be coming across datable women that have been married before... for quite a while anyway. I think it's just the word... divorced. Some guys might get scared off by that. Or they are just intimidated that you would have a lot of experience. Or perhaps they are afraid that after one marriage, the next one will come quick... who knows?
It is sort of unfair... there are reasons and sometimes it is just out of our control, sometimes it is the best thing. And yet the perception will be the same for everyone. For me, unless there is something really significant, I'd ignore a girl's past relationships. Even if, some day, I go out with a previously married woman, I would just not worry about it unless it has happened many times. I judge people on the present... not the past.