05-23-2003, 07:07 PM
Nature vs. nurture. I know plenty about psychology. Yes, it is a combination. It is not purely environmental. I'm not so sure you've read everything evan, because my last post was sort of a response, I didn't want to repeat myself or anyone else about everything. Understand that monogamy (not sure how many times this must be said) is UNIVERSAL. If we did stuff based only on a moral ceremony developed by religion, there wouldn't be single partner relationships all over the world. I know we are supposed to be talking about marriage, but I'm putting it on a broader scale of monogamous relationships, not just the ceremony of marriage. Why do people seek "the one" and put their significant other on such a high priority? Because they see it on TV and their parents told them about it? Not really. I will agree with this: marriage and living arrangements are most likely nurture. Meaning, traditionally in American lifestyle (though it is changing) we get married to someone we "love" and then get a house, live together, and have children. We date and woo first, all that stuff. In other cultures, there are arranged marriages. Some live with extended family. So yes, stuff like that I see as environmental, we do as told and as we see. However, I say the emotional drive for being with one person at a time, at some point hoping to be with one our entire life, is a part of nature. It would not be such a strong feeling and so universal otherwise. Beyond being universal, it's also a very OLD emotion and drive.
I'm laying out my opinion soulevan, and I haven't mentioned environment much because I don't see it as much of a significant factor, in terms of the basic single-partner relationship drive. Let me ask you this... do you think we smile because we see our parents smile? Or laugh because others do it?
BTW, I read everything I write about 3 times before I hit the button. This is also a debate, state your opinion and respond, don't give attitude. I know what I am saying, and once again, if you read what I say, I'm stating all of these possibilities. Many of them are NOT my opinion, I'm just throwing out ideas. This post I just wrote reflects my opinion the most.
I'm laying out my opinion soulevan, and I haven't mentioned environment much because I don't see it as much of a significant factor, in terms of the basic single-partner relationship drive. Let me ask you this... do you think we smile because we see our parents smile? Or laugh because others do it?
BTW, I read everything I write about 3 times before I hit the button. This is also a debate, state your opinion and respond, don't give attitude. I know what I am saying, and once again, if you read what I say, I'm stating all of these possibilities. Many of them are NOT my opinion, I'm just throwing out ideas. This post I just wrote reflects my opinion the most.