lets elaborate on your definition a little
"If you have to lie about something, obviously it should be questioned and it very well could be wrong.
it's like masturbation... generally the fantasy is not about your partner/spouse. "
do you plan to tell your significant other that you masturbate while thinking of someone else? If the answer is no....is that because it may hurt them? (ok not to the point of destroying a relationship but you never know maybe it would).....but then by your definition isnt thinking about cheating =cheating?
"If you have to lie about something, obviously it should be questioned and it very well could be wrong.
it's like masturbation... generally the fantasy is not about your partner/spouse. "
do you plan to tell your significant other that you masturbate while thinking of someone else? If the answer is no....is that because it may hurt them? (ok not to the point of destroying a relationship but you never know maybe it would).....but then by your definition isnt thinking about cheating =cheating?