07-05-2003, 06:27 AM
jabbahunt,Jul 4 2003, 07:51 PM Wrote:Both women and men only want to be looked at by those they want to be noticed by.I agree...but since we can not put blinders on the other people we have to learn to show respect.
No one is saying a person who dresses nicely, doesnt want to be 'noticed'. Still not real sure what this woman wore...maybe it wasnt 'professional' attire, but it happens enough to women who dress appropriately too. it does not condon the mentality.......if she is dressed provocative she is asking to be raped..... I know some women show little respect for themselves with the way they dress, these are psychological issues she has to deal with. I am not sure I can defend some 'outfits' that I have seen at the work place. But it still does not give a professional the right to gawk....yeah I have seen women do it to other women even....doesnt make it ok...it is still wrong in the work place.
I dress appropriately at work...but have had roving eyes on more than one occassion...I demand that a man pay attention to what I am saying, which means I dont let my eyes wander...not even to the lights or a table and I pause until I know I have his attention and his eyes have stopped wandering.....then I guess that could lose me my job because I can tell that it makes the guy uncomfortable....the most times I have ever had to do it was twice....most guys catch on without verbally having to tell them they are being rude. Then again if I walk out of a cold room and it is obvious through my shirt that it was a cold room...I put my lab coat on....it is not fair to expect things to be ignored either...but that is where the respect for myself comes in...as wrong as I think it is for a man to 'stare' it is also my responsibility to maintain a professional work environment.
Learn a little covert glancing earn a little respect for yourself.:thumb: