05-29-2003, 05:15 PM
I think if anything, the emotion behind cheating is up to the one being cheated on. Like I said, personally it would feel terrible if I was being cheated on, there is this sickening feeling....
So I guess if a woman is cool with it (I very much doubt she would be, more like she is hiding it to appease him or something), then maybe it's not so much cheating as just questionable morals. Generally something like that would destroy any relationship, but I suppose there are exceptions.
I don't mean to say that it's ok as long as you don't get caught. I mean IF your partner were to know, what feelings it would invoke. If you have to lie about something, obviously it should be questioned and it very well could be wrong. I also think actions are different than thoughts... everyone has devious thoughts, at some time or another. So thinking about cheating... as long as you don't do it, think or fantasize away. Once again, it's like masturbation... generally the fantasy is not about your partner/spouse.
So I guess if a woman is cool with it (I very much doubt she would be, more like she is hiding it to appease him or something), then maybe it's not so much cheating as just questionable morals. Generally something like that would destroy any relationship, but I suppose there are exceptions.
I don't mean to say that it's ok as long as you don't get caught. I mean IF your partner were to know, what feelings it would invoke. If you have to lie about something, obviously it should be questioned and it very well could be wrong. I also think actions are different than thoughts... everyone has devious thoughts, at some time or another. So thinking about cheating... as long as you don't do it, think or fantasize away. Once again, it's like masturbation... generally the fantasy is not about your partner/spouse.