Ok, we have examined questions 1 and 2 pretty well. I want to look at question 3 a little bit. I am not here to offend anyone, especially those open-minded individuals who have confided with facts about themselves here in my thread. But we have to acknowledge a cetain phenomenon in our society, one that exists since the giant rise in divorce over the last two decades: the notion that divorcees are damaged goods.
I am only bringign it up because it needs to be discussed. In a forum usually viewed by young, unmarried gamer males? Why not. We have a few married folks in here and a few divorcees.
I have a good friend back home, I met her in college. I met her my sophomore year, she was the same. She seemed to have some unhealthy disposition towards men, I never understood why. We had our run-ins early on, however she became a good friend. I learned after knowing her for 2 years that she had been divorced shortly before we met.
In those 2 years she dabbled in short term relationships, often she would 'date' guys in relationships. She would never get too close to her guy pals, she would pull away before things could really get going. A great girl, many guys wanted more with her. Her experience led her to have behaviors that made me very curious. Learning of her loss and pain shed some light on why she acted in such ways.
Later she settled down and has had two long term relationships since. She looks back on her marriage at 18 as a mistake of youth. It's not that she holds a ton of regret, for it was a learning experience. When we talk of our sophomore year, she knows and acknowledges that she was in a man-hating period in her life. Dating her at that time, you would definitly have experienced damaged goods. Today though, the experience is only part of what she brings to the table. She is a smarter dater.
1. I would certainly date this girl now if I were able and back home. Is this more of a timing issue than a divorce one?
2. Guys, do you feel like you will in some ways we are blamed for jerks in girls' pasts? Girls, do you experience this, too?
I am only bringign it up because it needs to be discussed. In a forum usually viewed by young, unmarried gamer males? Why not. We have a few married folks in here and a few divorcees.
I have a good friend back home, I met her in college. I met her my sophomore year, she was the same. She seemed to have some unhealthy disposition towards men, I never understood why. We had our run-ins early on, however she became a good friend. I learned after knowing her for 2 years that she had been divorced shortly before we met.
In those 2 years she dabbled in short term relationships, often she would 'date' guys in relationships. She would never get too close to her guy pals, she would pull away before things could really get going. A great girl, many guys wanted more with her. Her experience led her to have behaviors that made me very curious. Learning of her loss and pain shed some light on why she acted in such ways.
Later she settled down and has had two long term relationships since. She looks back on her marriage at 18 as a mistake of youth. It's not that she holds a ton of regret, for it was a learning experience. When we talk of our sophomore year, she knows and acknowledges that she was in a man-hating period in her life. Dating her at that time, you would definitly have experienced damaged goods. Today though, the experience is only part of what she brings to the table. She is a smarter dater.
1. I would certainly date this girl now if I were able and back home. Is this more of a timing issue than a divorce one?
2. Guys, do you feel like you will in some ways we are blamed for jerks in girls' pasts? Girls, do you experience this, too?